Hello World!
I've been a little M.I.A I know. I take my hat off to those who blog for a living because some days I have things to post but no energy to make it happen. Kudos to you all.
At this present moment I'm at my place of employment (Ugh!). My co-workers just made a comment that made my brain start turning. 'It's not hard to find a man/woman. You just pick.' This coming from someone who is married and someone else who has been in a LONG term relationship for years now. I'm often asked 'Why are you single?' I hate that question with a passion because the answer is not so simple. There are plenty of reasons why I'm single. The area I live in has a shortage of men, I haven't met a man who I click with, and etc.
I would love to say I'm single because I choose to be. Even if its partially true. I could just settle for the next guy who smiles my way, but I want to be happy. I want to be in a healthy loving relationship. Not having a man just to have one. Sure I have a list of qualities that I look for; who doesn't!? I also understand that a man will be a man. They will cheat. They will lie. They will lust. They will flirt. They will put careers/money before you. They will always choose their mother over you. That's just what it is. Even those who try their damn est to not be a 'typical' male even fall victim sometimes. I cant fault them just like they cant fault my woman tendencies.
I may be attractive and look good on paper but I'm not perfect either. Those who are believed to be still experience let downs. Halle Berry was cheated on. Beyonce was lied to. Rhianna was disrespected. Megan Fox was dumped. These are women that men fantasize about. Women that they compare their women to. And yet they go through the same ups & downs as the next woman. So why would a woman expect a man to treat her differently?
I digress...
It's very easy to make opinions and statements when they subject doesn't concern you. The sea for single people is lacking fish and approaching a drought. Is it hard to be single? Yes. Is it hard to be in a relationship? Yes. But trading one headache/heartache for another is never the answer. Never settle. Never let others make your love life their business. Always go for what makes you happy!
'I'm known to walk alone but I'm alone for a reason.'
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Blessings!